21 May, 16

Live your Life


There is a quote that reads “You’ve never lived until you’ve almost died. For those who have fought for it, life has a flavor the protected shall never know.” As horrible as it sounds, sometimes it takes fighting for your life, or seeing someone else fight for theirs, to be able to actually live, and appreciate life. We really don’t have much say about what happens to us in life, especially when you’re diagnosed with cancer, or when a traumatic experience happens to you. You really only have two options, be strong or break down.

We all have decisions to make in life. Your PET scan came back showing more cancer. You have two options. Do you choose to do 5 weeks of immediate radiation and more cycles of chemo and pray that it works? Or do you opt out of radiation and do a stem cell transplant and pray that it works? Or do you just opt out of chemo in general, because of all of the side effects? You ultimately have to decide. I used to be the most indecisive person ever, I never knew what I wanted. I never knew where I wanted to live, what company I wanted to work for, who I wanted to be with, what kind of person I wanted to be. Now, I know exactly what I want, and what I don’t want. And in some situations, it took me too long to decide and now it’s too late.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that coming from someone who has to fight on a daily basis, life is short. So decide what you want. If you’re not happy with your job, find a new one. If you’re not happy with the city that you live in, move. If you’re sick of working like a dog and not getting reimbursed enough for it, don’t do it anymore. Is the person that you’re dating a time filler or someone you actually see yourself being with? If you’re not happy in your relationship, leave it. If you love someone, tell them. If you’re still in love with someone else, tell them too. Hell, if you want the hand bag, just buy it. Tomorrow isn’t promised. We never know what life is going to throw at us. I could have never predicted that I would get cancer at 28, ever. You can’t predict the future. Life is short, don’t complicate it. Decide what you want and what you don’t want. I recently said “f*ck it” and bought a condo that I was in love with. DECIDE what you want and don’t wait until it’s too late to do so. Do it now. You only have one life to live, don’t let anything stop you, and live it exactly how you want to live it.

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  1. Lindy says:

    Hi Jessi, I just want to thank you for sharing all your expercience during this hard time. You are such an amazing, strong and positive woman! Next week I’ll start with my first chemo, I have ovarian cancer and also 28 years old, I am so scared, but I know that I am not alone. And I hope that I can be strong enough just like you. Thank you, You’re an example. Take care, you can do this! 😊💪

  2. Olivia says:

    YES! I couldn’t have said it any better!

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