Being a young, single Cancer patient, your first instinct is to freak out and think “I have cancer, what now? No one is ever going to want to date me!” Again, dating shouldn’t be a priority–getting better should. I don’t want to down play my symptoms because I have them all — my neuropathy in my hands is insane, I can barely feel them. I have excruciating stomach pain, I’m exhausted, I get nauseous, etc. I have the same symptoms as you do. But I find that the more I get out there, the better I feel. And I refuse to be one of the cancer patients who locks herself away from the outside world, simply because you’re sick. That’s not me and not how I plan on handling this. I refuse to lose 6 months of my life because of this. I’m going to kick cancer’s ass and do it in a compliant way that does not put me at risk for infection and an ER visit.
With that being said, one of my best girlfriends, Briana from Boston is currently in town visiting her favorite Lymphoma chick. Yesterday we decided to have dinner at Smith & Wollensky on the water to chat and catch up. We were rudely interrupted by an intoxicated man, as we were sitting down to eat. His crew is pictured in the photo below.
We were having a great time, joking around, when Friend X told me he was at a local happy hour venue and to come. We show up, he doesn’t answer (typical guy move), then tells me he went home. Whatever dude! Within two minutes of us being there, we are approached by a group of guys, who we end up chatting with the entire time. At first it was awkward when they were trying to buy us drinks, and I obviously can’t drink. I’m a germ-a-phob too, so kept backing away from them. I’m not Neutropenic right now, got a blood transfusion the other day, so I feel pretty good, but would rather be safe then sorry. I ended up telling them my story, which I was hesitant to do so at first, but news flash… They didn’t care! They actually respected it. And the cute one asked for my number too, so could turn out to be a friend. STILL HAVE GAME WITH CANCER! We had a great conversation about dating in Miami, and it got very funny when Briana and Guy X started comparing men in Boston vs. Miami. Shout out to the Boston Bruins, because we came to the conclusion that the only game men in Boston have is watching it on tv..Bruins games, PATS games, Red Sox Games. Shout out to my New England sports teams. Meanwhile, Guy X was blown away by the Boston dating etiquette. He views dating as chivalry aka pursuing a woman, and winning a woman over like a true gentleman.
We then left the venue to head home. While walking out of the venue, we meet another two super cool guys. Boom. No one cares that you have cancer girlfriends! A lot of guys even respect you more for it. And if they don’t, they are losers. So I am living proof that if you’re not Neutropenic, you should get off your butt and get out there! At least for 10 minutes!! You never know what will happen during those 10 minutes.
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